Thursday 4 July 2013

Why You Should Or Shouldn't Give It Up On The First Date


We live in an era of sexual liberation where inhibitions have diminished; women can now independently decide who to sleep with and when to do so. At the same time women while deciding when to sleep with whoever have to contend with the fact that they live in a society that frowns at women giving it up easily. A society that has a set of norms as to how women should conduct their affairs,  so it now depends on how serious the typical guy out there takes these rules.



 A lot of men condemn women who give it up on a first date while others cheer the move and view it more like a woman having self confidence, people who support it say: 
  • Sex on a first date helps couples make an informed decision about their compatibility.
  • Helps the woman assess her man’s penis size and decide if its what she can cope with.
  • Helps erase awkwardness thereby making them feel comfortable with each other.
  • All these will help both decide if they can afford to invest time in each other.


For those against it, their reasons are based on the following:
  • The woman would feel cheap.
  • Anticipation is lost,same goes for interest on the man's part
  • The man sees her as a cheap lay.




What’s your personal opinion on the matter? What would be your reaction and impression if a lady gives it up on a first date? Would you stay? Would you run? Ladies what's your take? What would make you give it up on a first date? Or why wouldn't you want to give it up?

  

20 comments:

  1. For me sex on a first date makes the woman cheap, how well do you know him to give it out? I'm still old fashioned about sex tho

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  2. If you wanna score high for me, give it up before the date! Simple!

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  3. It depends on how long I've known the man before the 'first date'. Some people really get to know each other well even without meeting in person... (Especially these days)

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  4. Generally I think females should never give it up on the first date; but what do I know?
    There r exceptions to every rule but giving it up on the first date is Risky.
    This is an ageless argument & tons of theories have been spun but I like the recent angle Steve Harvey & his Think Like A Man book and movie brought to the table... Read and Watch!

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  5. Give it up on your wedding night, Ladies!

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    1. Emmm! Ojay how many men will have anything to do with u if yiu don't give b4 wedding?

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    2. Well... Mine did!!!
      It all depends actually. It wasn't easy but trust me, it was worth it

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  6. CrunchyApple what DO U THINK? Can you give it up on d first date & reasons why not if not? Oya!! Nice you get us to think; but we need to hear your own opinions! That personalizes your blog & encourages others to share, cheers!!!

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  7. I'm all for full disclosure as far as this blog is concerned o! As to ur question. I feel it should be a personal decision on the woman's part but just so she knows, men are queer, they'll make moves on u and when you reciprocate,they nail you for it. Just like the serpent in eden if u ask me. She can give it up and pray she's dealing with a man who's not judgemental. But for me o! I'm wearing IRON PANTS to that date

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  8. Ok, all the pro-"don't give it up" advocates, does giving it up on the second or third or hundreth date guarantee a successful relationship? Its either you don't give it up at all, before or after the date until marriage or you give it up before or after, don't mean shit!

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  9. If a woman is not a virgin, she should just shut up and give it up biko...its simply hypocrytical to play the "dont-give-it-up-on-the-first-date" shit...

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  10. Haha! we are not queer; just have very short attention spans!
    Yes when we 'conquer'and move to the next chase when we get what we want; you have to keep us interested or we get bored and move on! Ladies sell themselves short by not using or developing the gift of intuition you are Blessed with. U know if we want to tap that or have deeper intentions!!! As per your iron pant- bring it on, I used to be skilled welder! ;)

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    1. Bijimi the Rapist lol! Its not always clear cut knowing when a guy only wants to "collect" or wants something deeper because some are obvious. While some you just need Jesus to keep you safe. Short attention span? Una get attention deficit disorder?

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  11. hmmmmmm! very funny comments. In this part of the world, a lady is regarded as being cheap by most men, if she gives herself up for sex on the first date. And it would likely play a major part in deciding on which foundation the relationship is built.

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  12. The sooner the better, I say!!!
    Sypho 1

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  13. 4 now she's such a nice girl giving it up on d 1st date,@ least every kid like father xmas,simply,I'll love her when she feeds me my cookies when I nd 'em,4 em that locks d cooky jar!aint got time 4 that shit!gatta move on

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  14. If she aint a virgin she should at least give in on the 2nd date.. No one got time for any long thing

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  15. If that's what the man wants even if you give it up after 1 year he will take it and move on, that is he if he waited for that long. The sooner the better so that the r/ship will be defined.

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  16. Well, we dudes might not see anything wrong with it, but in my personal opinion, its might create a wrong impression about the lady

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