It's Real, It's True, What Would You Have Done? What Should He Do?

The story is painful, sad and intriguing he said; wetin happen? I asked him. “I need you to share this story with your readers and I want honest answers………”

That was the opening of our chat and he went on to share a story with me, a story I know should be familiar with a lot of people, a story of love, sacrifice, betrayal , pain and despair, a story that must have an ending, good or bad. But he needs your advice to reach that decision so here it goes:

“A friend has 3 kids from same woman but hasn't paid her dowry and doesn't intend to because of lies & intrigues by the girl's family. There's no love lost among the parents of the both parties.

He has been in a relationship with the lady for over 11 years and the lady has 3 kids for him and he has vehemently refused to pay her dowry. He's reasons being that she lies a lot. Recently, he discovered that a certain man who currently holds a high position in government was having an affair with her while she made him believe he was her uncle not until his gateman caught the supposed uncle kissing madam in his car.  

The gateman later told him that whenever he oga travelled, the uncle stays late in the house before taking his leave (she still denies this till date). He has secretly conducted a DNA that confirmed his paternity of the 3 kids. He considers the girl's mother being hugely responsible for her daughter's misdemeanors, being a serial divorcee, alcoholic, morally bankrupt with no value for marriage or family. 

 He has tried severally to re-orient the lady, but his efforts are sabotaged by the girl's mother who has insisted on living under same roof with her daughter (being her only child). He has also noticed her mother's penchant for dressing seductively and flaunting it in his presence whenever he's alone with her at home. 

The high point was her stooping low to flash her *thing* in pretence to pick up something that fell off her hand.. He doesn't want to expose her to her daughter, instead he told her to caution her mother on appropriate dressing. His parents have vowed never to allow him marry her either because they found her very disrespectful, furthermore, reports from her mother's Exs' accuses her of being diabolical. 

He loves his kids to bits and wishes things were different because she's been a good mother to the their 3 kids. But the lady still lies terribly and her mother is not helping the situation either. He has no mistress or girlfriend and believes a man should be committed and faithful in a relationship, but the love he had for her ended long ago.”

Do you think it's wise for them to continue in a loveless relationship for the interest of the kids or should they find love out there and still be responsible parents to the kids? Should he still go ahead and pay her brideprice?