One of the most paraphrased statements still remains “Religion is the Opium of the Masses”, the sigh of the oppressed. Just like the bourgeoisie introduced religion as an antidote to the sufferings of the proletariats, an idea that there would be a future reward for the sufferings of today, churches have adopted unique and distinct lifestyles which they believe members must adhere to in order to make heaven and like the leviathan, absolute rights are given to the church to dictate how the lives of members are run.
Every church as we know them have their peculiarities, the white garment ones with barefoot and those who cover their feet, the chosen, who wear gospel banners as clothes, the Pentecostals whose women wear trousers and their men fry their hair , the faiths, who don’t take medication and never do blood transfusions and the deeper life who don’t make up, wear ornament, elaborate outfits even at weddings, don’t watch television and even substitute “akwa oche” for headscarf. A lot of churches as well exchange bibles at weddings instead of wedding rings.
One wonders the extent to which the propagators of these rules live up to the same rules themselves, so you can imagine the public outcry when John Kumuyi got married with all pump and pageantry which is the opposite of what is expected of the members.
Now , I’m not criticizing , but like I’ve always said, your way of life should be a personal decision, you alone can decide what rights to give others over you and when to say enough is enough. Quit the complaints, if you feel the church isn’t doing right by you, either move on or draw up a round table conference to decide the way forward.
Churches on their part have to learn to live above reproach, lead by example and never give people reason to question their actions, unless they expect their members to live on the principle of “ do as I say, not as I do”.