DEAR ABBY: I'm thinking about marrying my longtime boyfriend, but I'm hesitant because he wants me to change my last name. I want to keep my maiden name as my mother did. Most of the women I look up to in my life kept their names.My boyfriend says my wanting to keep my name tells him I am not committed. He says he'd be really hurt if I did it. I feel that retaining my name is the ultimate in female empowerment. The tradition of women changing their last name goes back to when we were treated as property and not educated. What do you think I should do? -- FEMALE FIRST, WIFE SECOND
I stumbled on the above “Dear Abby” letter and I couldn’t help but laugh out loud and wondered how a Nigerian man would react should his wife to be says this.
Sociologists would say the decisions and choices we make are as a result of the influences of our immediate environment and interactions with others but sometimes I ask myself: To what extent can we really blame society for our actions and that of others?
Are all the decisions you take based on external stimuli or is there that tiny neuro-genetic make up that influences your decisions?
Do you think there's more to the above writer's decision or should we just accept her reasons? Have you ever thought of not changing your last name after marriage? As a man, how would you react if your wife to be utters the above?