I read this beautiful piece by Oladimeji Josiah A and thought to share with you. for those trying to make sense of that word Love and how to go about quantifying it, here's a good way to start.
1. Attraction test: Is he/she attracted to the content or container that is it about your person or your body.
2. Purpose test: Will the relationship be temporal or forever, what exactly is the basis of your love.
3. Vision test: Does your vision unite you or divide you, do you compliment him and does he add values to you.
4. Activity test: Are you planning for tomorrow or all you care about is the excitement of today. Do you see a future together are you guarding it or destroying it
5. Caring test: What does he care about your life or body, your present or future? Is the care genuine or to get through to you.
6. Longevity test: is it for now or forever.
7. Starting test: How did it all started, was is based on friendship, infatuation or lust.
8. Purity test: Do you stand for righteousness or engaging in sexual immoralities.
9. Divine relationship test: Are you together in Christ or together in club.
10. Interest test: Is he warm, tender and gentle or harsh rude and arrogant.
11. Maturity test: How wise are you both, can your wisdom build a home and will your understanding establish it.
12. Effect test: Are you a better person or worse off.
13. Excitement test: Are you happy or you are enduring the relationship.
14. Marriage test: can you spend the rest of your life with him/her. Can you marry him/her?
15. Self-emotions test: can you both control your feelings and urge for sex.
16. Personal test: is he/she a genuinely born again Christian.
17. Patient test: can you both keep the bed undefiled.
18. Peace test: Is there peace of mind or you are always troubled
19. Other relationship: What is the view of your family and friends? Do they know about the relationship, are they in support of it.
20. Trust test: can you open up to him/her saying nothing but the truth at every point in time.
21. Distance test: can you love him/her in his/her absence.
22. Time test: Is love growing strong or waxing cold, can it survive the test of time.
23. Pluralistic test: Do you see each other as you and me or we and us.
24. Character test: Can you coup with your flaws and can you live with your weaknesses.
25. Foundation test: can you present him to the world as your husband or wife.
26. Goal test: Is your goal to please God or yourselves.
27. Prayer and counsel test: Have you prayed about it, is your pastor or church leaders aware of your relationship.
28. Association test: Who are the people surrounding your relationship.
29. Commitment test: Do you spend quality time with each other, are you there when things are not smiling.
30. Medical test: Is your genotype compatible.