Monday, 4 November 2013

30 Ways To Check If That Love Is True

I read this beautiful piece by Oladimeji Josiah A and thought to share with you. for those trying to make sense of that word Love and how to go about quantifying it, here's a good way to start.

1. Attraction test: Is he/she attracted to the content or container that is it about your person or your body.

2. Purpose test: Will the relationship be temporal or forever, what exactly is the basis of your love.

3. Vision test: Does your vision unite you or divide you, do you compliment him and does he add values to you.

4. Activity test: Are you planning for tomorrow or all you care about is the excitement of today. Do you see a future together are you guarding it or destroying it

5. Caring test: What does he care about your life or body, your present or future? Is the care genuine or to get through to you.

6. Longevity test: is it for now or forever.

7. Starting test: How did it all started, was is based on friendship, infatuation or lust.

8. Purity test: Do you stand for righteousness or engaging in sexual immoralities.

9. Divine relationship test: Are you together in Christ or together in club.

10. Interest test: Is he warm, tender and gentle or harsh rude and arrogant.

11. Maturity test: How wise are you both, can your wisdom build a home and will your understanding establish it.

12. Effect test: Are you a better person or worse off.

13. Excitement test: Are you happy or you are enduring the relationship.

14. Marriage test: can you spend the rest of your life with him/her. Can you marry him/her?

15. Self-emotions test: can you both control your feelings and urge for sex.

 16. Personal test: is he/she a genuinely born again Christian.

 17. Patient test: can you both keep the bed undefiled.

18. Peace test: Is there peace of mind or you are always troubled

19. Other relationship: What is the view of your family and friends? Do they know about the relationship, are they in support of it.

20. Trust test: can you open up to him/her saying nothing but the truth at every point in time.

 21. Distance test: can you love him/her in his/her absence.

22. Time test: Is love growing strong or waxing cold, can it survive the test of time.

 23. Pluralistic test: Do you see each other as you and me or we and us.

 24. Character test: Can you coup with your flaws and can you live with your weaknesses.

25. Foundation test: can you present him to the world as your husband or wife.

 26. Goal test: Is your goal to please God or yourselves.

27. Prayer and counsel test: Have you prayed about it, is your pastor or church leaders aware of your relationship.

 28. Association test: Who are the people surrounding your relationship.

29. Commitment test: Do you spend quality time with each other, are you there when things are not smiling.

 30. Medical test: Is your genotype compatible.


  1. abeg, this list too long.....i go wait make Skuri or SonOfMan summarize am mbok

  2. So, das, before I marry I go begin mould brain... Na wa o. It's getting easier and easier to be single with each passing day. Which kin list be this?! Pastor and church leaders ke...
    Sypho 1

  3. Looks like I did well even as I didn't have such a list to make reference to but why on earth would a pastor be part and parcel of my relationship? ?

  4. Crazy list, with this list nobody will be married

  5. Chikezie...I don laugh shit...summary be say REMAIN SINGLE...Sypho, you be clown but I dey feel you

    1. Ejima/Crunchy, una don hear am. Skuri say make i remain single just chop and clean mouth dey go......

      wey dat my glow-in-da-dark-condom sef..........

  6. Utopian at most. Let them equally add 31. Do you say the Lord's Prayer before you kiss? Abegi.